I received the following comment/question via Formspring:
First, thank you so much for the compliment. Can't say that me or my honesty has ever been referred as hot before, but I won't complain. :)
This question is almost like deja vu. I've had this conversation a couple of times over the past month or so. Even within the last week. I will assume by broken in this means that you are at least past the initial stages of becoming familiar with being submissive and having a Dominant lead them down that road. Or, at least that's how I'm going to approach this.
As for my own personal views, I think that any Dom who is just there for the thrill of "breaking you in" and then wishes to be on his way isn't worth the time. This is, of course, unless this is known from the start and you are both in it for this reason. Otherwise, you go through all this with him, get attached, develop feelings, connect and bond on a deep intimate level, and then end up an emotional basket case because he moves on. And why? All because he made his conquest and is now onto someone else.
In my eyes, unless you go into with that purpose and it is known, that is just...Wrong...Wrong...Wrong...on so many levels!
For me, losing the thrill doesn't even cross my mind or play into it. It's not about getting a submissive used to this and what it is like and then nothing more. It's about the ever-evolving relationship and dynamic between the two of you. I don't see it as a period of initial learning and then you move into the next phase. I see it as something that is continuously growing and becoming more, with no specific phases or end points. It is a constant progression together to become more for each other. If you back out after the initial "break in" period ( I feel like I'm talking about a car or something lol) then you are missing out on how deep and fulfilling a D/s relationship can grow to be.
I think so much of it depends on the person you are involved with in this. A good person/man (Dom doesn't even really have to be a part of the equation) won't ever see it as getting your feet wet and then leaving you start it all again. If this is a concern for you, then you two need to be very open with your communication and define what you want and your expectations with each other. He needs to know how you view your relationship, now and in the future, just as you need to know how he sees it. there doesn't need to be any surprises, as far as this goes.
I hope this answers your question(s). Thanks for asking this, and again for the compliments.
~DV~
Love your honesty in answering questions, quite HOT! I am new to BDSM, obviously. So, before I get over my head in this new relationship and my heart broken, let me ask you this? Do dominant men lose the thrill of their sub once they are "broken in"?
First, thank you so much for the compliment. Can't say that me or my honesty has ever been referred as hot before, but I won't complain. :)
This question is almost like deja vu. I've had this conversation a couple of times over the past month or so. Even within the last week. I will assume by broken in this means that you are at least past the initial stages of becoming familiar with being submissive and having a Dominant lead them down that road. Or, at least that's how I'm going to approach this.
As for my own personal views, I think that any Dom who is just there for the thrill of "breaking you in" and then wishes to be on his way isn't worth the time. This is, of course, unless this is known from the start and you are both in it for this reason. Otherwise, you go through all this with him, get attached, develop feelings, connect and bond on a deep intimate level, and then end up an emotional basket case because he moves on. And why? All because he made his conquest and is now onto someone else.
In my eyes, unless you go into with that purpose and it is known, that is just...Wrong...Wrong...Wrong...on so many levels!
For me, losing the thrill doesn't even cross my mind or play into it. It's not about getting a submissive used to this and what it is like and then nothing more. It's about the ever-evolving relationship and dynamic between the two of you. I don't see it as a period of initial learning and then you move into the next phase. I see it as something that is continuously growing and becoming more, with no specific phases or end points. It is a constant progression together to become more for each other. If you back out after the initial "break in" period ( I feel like I'm talking about a car or something lol) then you are missing out on how deep and fulfilling a D/s relationship can grow to be.
I think so much of it depends on the person you are involved with in this. A good person/man (Dom doesn't even really have to be a part of the equation) won't ever see it as getting your feet wet and then leaving you start it all again. If this is a concern for you, then you two need to be very open with your communication and define what you want and your expectations with each other. He needs to know how you view your relationship, now and in the future, just as you need to know how he sees it. there doesn't need to be any surprises, as far as this goes.
I hope this answers your question(s). Thanks for asking this, and again for the compliments.
~DV~
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