Ok, my ship isn't really sinking, but I am here today to ask for your assistance. I have been asked by one of my followers about a situation. Honestly, I don't know the answer to this. Yes...believe it or not, DV has been stumped. But I also am not ashamed to admit when I don't know something. When you don't know, the best thing to do is tap all the resources you have, and try to find the answer. Anyway, she gave me permission to post this and ask for the assistance and opinion of you all. So, here we are! (and no I won't disclose who it is, so don't even ask!)
I have written quite a bit about submissives. I have talked about the discovery of the submissive side of a woman, and a lot of what she goes through, from first discovery, to acceptance, and way beyond. I have even talked about vanilla women finding their true inner self (submissive), and ones who didn't even know they were submissive, or were even trying to find out. Yet, they discovered this about themselves, and found out what they had been missing for a large portion of their life. They had no clue what was missing, or even how to look for it, no less in bdsm, but once it was found, they realized that they felt more at peace and at home than ever before.
The issue comes into play for me when we switch this around and talk about a Dominant. Sure, a Dom discovers himself at some point as well. I did! But other than myself, I really have no experience with the discovery of the Dominant side of a person. I have only dealt with submissives. Most of what I know about other Doms I have rad online. In the case of my follower, she is a known submissive, and has been for years. She has experience, and knows what she wants, likes and needs.
So the question, or questions, for you all, my faithful followers and readers, is this:
Can a vanilla man with a dominant personality become a good Dominant or Master? There are undoubtedly men out there that have "it" inside of them, but don't know it. How does a woman go about releasing this inner Dom within someone who doesn't even know about it? Can a submissive woman help guide a Dominant vanilla man to be a Master over her? Can this be done without topping from the bottom? Is this really even possible? There are vanilla couples that progress and move into D/s dynamics within their relationships, so how do they do it and arrive at that point?
My general thought is yes it can be done. It's the how that I'm not sure about. I know I have read some blogs before where the dynamic is just such as this. I just can't remember who's blog it is. So here I am asking you all for help, thoughts, views, opinions, etc... Give some good advice, and better yet insight, to my dear follower. And of course she will be reading this, and all your comments. I look forward to being able to learn something from this as well, and better myself from it.
Feel free to ask questions if you need clarification or further information, and I will provide it as I can. Thanks in advance to all of you, and I look forward to your comments and responses.
I have written quite a bit about submissives. I have talked about the discovery of the submissive side of a woman, and a lot of what she goes through, from first discovery, to acceptance, and way beyond. I have even talked about vanilla women finding their true inner self (submissive), and ones who didn't even know they were submissive, or were even trying to find out. Yet, they discovered this about themselves, and found out what they had been missing for a large portion of their life. They had no clue what was missing, or even how to look for it, no less in bdsm, but once it was found, they realized that they felt more at peace and at home than ever before.
The issue comes into play for me when we switch this around and talk about a Dominant. Sure, a Dom discovers himself at some point as well. I did! But other than myself, I really have no experience with the discovery of the Dominant side of a person. I have only dealt with submissives. Most of what I know about other Doms I have rad online. In the case of my follower, she is a known submissive, and has been for years. She has experience, and knows what she wants, likes and needs.
So the question, or questions, for you all, my faithful followers and readers, is this:
Can a vanilla man with a dominant personality become a good Dominant or Master? There are undoubtedly men out there that have "it" inside of them, but don't know it. How does a woman go about releasing this inner Dom within someone who doesn't even know about it? Can a submissive woman help guide a Dominant vanilla man to be a Master over her? Can this be done without topping from the bottom? Is this really even possible? There are vanilla couples that progress and move into D/s dynamics within their relationships, so how do they do it and arrive at that point?
My general thought is yes it can be done. It's the how that I'm not sure about. I know I have read some blogs before where the dynamic is just such as this. I just can't remember who's blog it is. So here I am asking you all for help, thoughts, views, opinions, etc... Give some good advice, and better yet insight, to my dear follower. And of course she will be reading this, and all your comments. I look forward to being able to learn something from this as well, and better myself from it.
Feel free to ask questions if you need clarification or further information, and I will provide it as I can. Thanks in advance to all of you, and I look forward to your comments and responses.
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