If you are busy and your submissive needs you, would you prefer that she deal with it on her own (and you discuss it later) or would you help her even then?
Is a too busy Dom a bad Dom?
I received these two questions in my Formspring. First off let me say, that I know Friday is Formspring day for most of you. However, for me I already have a Friday obligation (FAF), so I will just answer these as they come to me and I have time to answer them. Second, both questions are similar and I'm not sure if they are from the same person or not. Regardless, I will answer them the best I can.
A busy Dominant seems to be the topic of concern. This can be a touchy issue. The short answer to the first question, will I help my sub even if I'm busy, is YES! I think it is the Doms responsibility to help and assist his submissive whenever she is in need. At least the best he can under his particular circumstances.
There is a longer answer to this. I think it greatly depends upon the relationship, each person's specific situation, and what the Dom is busy doing. If you are like me, and you know about my home situation, we are not living together or in a place where we can see each other frequently, then that makes things a bit different. We both understand our situation and the dynamic of our relationship and the others involved in our lives. So..should I help my sub even if I'm busy? Yes! However, she also has to understand that I may be in the middle of other obligations, and I will help her as soon as I possibly can do so.
On the second question, is a busy Dom a bad Dom? I think this depends. As you long as you both understand your respective situations, then it can be worked around. IF you are interested in a Dom who is very busy, and you need more than he can give you, then it can be a problem. This is something the two of you need to openly discuss and lay out there for each other. You each need to be open about what you need and expect and see if it can be worked out between you. If one of you can't give the other as much as they need, then this may be something that doesn't fir or work. So, is a busy Dom a bad Dom? It doesn't make him bad or any less Dom. It just may not make him the right Dom for you.
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