I received this picture this morning from my Sunshine. Part of it really made her think about things going on in her life. It really made me think too, as it holds true for things happening in my life as well. I think we can all relate to this in one way or another. We all have regrets about situations where we didn't take a chance, didn't make a decision, or waited too long to make a decision.
Why is it that we as people tend to delay decisions? Why do we put off making decisions we know we need to make, and will ultimately make life better for us? The answer is...comfort and change...or the fear of change. We get comfortable in our situations. We need stability. We don't like change. Even when we find ourselves in situations that aren't the best or aren't ideal, we will stay in those situations because they feel normal and comfortable. There is some stability and knowing what to expect in those situations. We would rather stay in a non-ideal situation than have to deal with change and turn our stability upside down.
I continue to use "we" as I describe this because I feel overall that people in general are this way, and I am as well. I like stability and knowing what to expect. There are changes coming up for me that will be life altering in a huge way. The changes may be sooner or may be later, but they are coming one way or another. I know in the end that these changes will be the best for all involved. I know that ultimately these changes will make me happier and enable me to be more of who I want and need to be as a person. They will give me a chance to get what I need as a person that I can never get otherwise.
So why don't I just go ahead and move forward? Why don't I make these changes now? The simple answer is comfort and stability in where I am. I don't have to make these changes now. If forced or pushed, I could move forward with the changes now. I have no problem in doing so, but for now I don't have to do anything. Will I regret not going ahead and making the changes that are coming? Will I wish I hadn't delayed and had gone ahead and gotten things moving forward? Possibly! But, there are a lot of other factors in play, so for now...stability is good. Yet, I will say this...I am slowly moving forward. The changes are because of me and my own initiation. They will happen because of me. They will happen because I know what I want and need to make me a happier person. Because I refuse to settle long term for anything less. These decisions can be heartbreaking and gut-wrenching, but will also be the best for all involved long term....or at least so I believe.
At one time or another we all have to make life altering decisions. It could be about your relationship, your marriage, or even whether or not to take the steps to finding who you truly are as a Dominant or submissive. Sometimes it involves letting go of the past to be able to have a brighter future. We all have to face changes at some point or another. We all have to step out of our comfort zone, let go of the stability, and try to better ourselves. Are you willing to make the necessary changes to be able to be happier and find who you truly are? Are you already doing that? Can you make those tough decisions? It's never an easy thing to do. Yet, sometimes we have to be willing to let go to move forward. Don't settle for less than you need and deserve. If you settle, even though you aren't happy, because you are comfortable and stable, then I can promise you one thing for certain...In The End, as you look back, you will regret not standing up for yourself and making the changes needed to be happy and the person you really are inside.
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