Realization Of The pleasure Dynamic

There comes a point in the progression of every submissive where they realize and feel a transformation.  Every new submissive knows that a D/s relationship involves service, obedience and direction, in addition to pleasure.  A lot of subs know there is an amount of pleasure that comes with being submissive, but there is something that they feel and come to realize that can't be taught.  There is something that they awaken to eventually, and it is a huge step in their mindset and being able to move forward and grow as the submissive they are and want to be.  What is it?  The true feeling and understanding that there is more pleasure in pleasing than being pleased.

This is something that can't be taught.  It can't be forced on someone and have the real effect the same as someone who truly feels it.  When working with a submissive, I am always delighted when I hear one say they have realized how much their own orgasm doesn't matter.  They have a feeling of emptiness with nothing but their own pleasure.  They are now becoming more concerned with the pleasure of their Dom, and knowing that he is satisfied.  Knowing that she and her body have been a source of pleasure and orgasmic satisfaction for him is far more exciting and pleasurable than strictly having an orgasm herself.  This is something she has to figure out, understand and come to grips with, within herself.  Until she feels it inside and on her own, it can't be fully comprehended.  But once it is, a major milestone in her submission has been reached.

Here is a prime example of what I mean.  I cam across this writing and it best shows this side and realization of a developing and growing submissive.  It is from an email that was sent to her Dom after one of her assignments.

"I just rubbed myself and came as directed.  You were of course filling my thoughts as I did it.  What was new was as the orgasm was ending, my hips were still moving.  The thought in my head was, "I need to know he has cum.  I need to have him cum in me.  I need to know he is satisfied."  I needed that more than my own orgasm.  I know this will end up in my journal I write for you, but I wanted to share it as the thought and feeling was new and fresh."

What a wonderful thing that is!  How great is it as a Dom to be a part of the growth of a submissive and to see her open up and feel new things.  To know you have guided her in a way that has enabled her to get to this point.  To know you have helped open her up to see and feel the submissive inside herself and to experience a brand new world she hadn't seen before.  It's just like having kids and seeing them accomplish new and exciting things and being so proud of them.  I'm sure all Doms/Masters have had this feeling of elation at seeing their subs grow and progress right in front of their eyes.  It is a great feeling to know what you are doing is making a positive impact.

The realization of the pleasure dynamic in a D/s relationship, and the sub truly feeling and understanding her own need to please, is absolutely fantastic.  May you all experience those "light bulb moments" in your endeavors that make you see things in a new light that you never had before. What a wonderful world we all participate in a the joys and pleasure that are part of it!