Breathing Fire

Sometimes things hit you wrong and it just infuriates you.  You feel a burn down deep inside and feel like you could breathe fire.  You feel like a dragon that wants to run around burning down everything in your path...just because you can.  Maybe it is something that truly does make you mad or upset, or maybe it was because it was just the wrong thing at the wrong time, and due to your mood it just didn't set well with you.  Whatever the case, we all feel this way sometimes.  It's how you handle it and deal with this issue that is what is seen most by other people and what is important in the long run.

I was recently sent a Formspring comment, from an anonymous person, that questioned my being a Dom.  This was due to previous posts where I was airing my feelings and garbage for the world to read.  The basic premise was that you can't be a Dominant and have such weak and fluttering feelings about your own life, and then say you want to be controlling of the life of someone else. At first this had me really pissed off.  But the more I thought about it, the more I started to laugh.  It dawned on me that this person obviously has no clue.  Not to mention, they didn't even have the balls to open this discussion with me and have a spirited debate about it.  They did it the cowardly way...anonymously.

Through my thoughts on this I came up with several things.  First, is is really un-Domly to share your feelings and show a more vulnerable side of yourself?  I don't think it is.  I personally ask subs to constantly share what they are feeling, how things affect them, how things physically feel, etc...  Why should I be any different?  Just because we are involved in a relationship with a dynamic such as this one, that does not mean we shouldn't share.  It may not come across as the most hardcore manly thing to do, but that doesn't make me any les of who I am.  I think it shows the softer side, and that I am willing to open that side up and share it.  It takes soeone comfortable with themself to be able to do this.  So, does this make me weaker?  Nope...I say I do it because I am strong enough to deal with it and express it. 

This also bring me back around to something I have discussed before.  There is someone out there for everyone.  Not all subs will like or be atracted to my type personality.  Just as I'm not attracted to all subs.  Everyone has varying needs and desires, and you must match those up to make for a good D/s couple.  If I'm into spanking and she is not, then we have a compatibilty problem.  If she needs humiliation and I don't like that, we have a problem.  If she requires a 24/7 HOH relationship and I can't offer it, we have a problem.  If I require someone that is into anal sex, and she is against it, then we have a problem.  There are all sorts of people out there, and not everyone matches well with everyone else.  That is just a fact of life, no matter what type relationship.  Yet, you can find someone that matches well with your owns needs and desires, and that allows for a wonderful match and growth potential with the two of you. 

Although I was ready to breathe fire for a few minutes, based on someone's apparent ignorant comment, it quickly passed and let a more logical view take over.  I am me and that's all I can be.  That is all I can expect from anyone else as well.  Just be yourself and don't be ashamed of it.  I would want no false pretenses.  Be who you are and let people like and love you for that.